People worry – that’s human. It’s fine to be worried sometimes. Still, excessive worrying may take away your peace of mind and positive mindset. The best part is that you can end your worrying habit when you are aware of the signs of a downward spiral and know how to encourage yourself again. You can train yourself to intentionally change your inner speech, to keep a meticulous awareness and at the same time, to develop a calm attitude. One of the mightiest ways to protect yourself is simply to recall the fundamentals.
Start by telling yourself, “this alone time is okay. If I feel overwhelmed, staying grounded in the present keeps my thoughts from spiraling into gloomy scenarios. Consider how many future-laden thoughts you have when anxious. How many come true? Can you remind yourself, I have faced uncertain days before and come through, wiser and often firmer-because I am still standing. I have taken away one more painful day in a row”.
Another helpful saying is, “Worrying won’t change the outcome but my actions can.” Anxiety convinces us that what we are doing-e.g. Obsessively thinking about the same thing over and over again-is helping, but it actually drains our energy which we need to address the problem.. And with repetition, instead of dwelling on the helpless fear, you divert your focus to the empowered actions-even if they are few. Combine this with, “I am doing the best I can with what I know right now” to release any unwarranted guilt or pressure associated with the perfectionist perfectionist mentality that maintain worry.
Life will throw some unexpected things at us and we’ll have to deal with it. You have to tell yourself, “I don’t have to control every little thing and that’s perfectly fine for me.” When you recognize your limits, it doesn’t mean that you are giving up; quite the opposite, it’s very liberating because you don’t need to be in a frenzy about every single part. What you will need to do is control what you can and be ready to respond to the rest.” Keep in mind that most of the the things that you were worried about before turned out to be just false alarms or they sorted themselves out even much better than you thought. “Most of my worries were false alarms” can be a kind way to remind yourself that the problem you are facing today is not as serious as you think it is.
Be kind to yourself “‘It’s normal to feel nervous-and I can do that without it controlling me. So I’m not going to add more pressure to myself by beating myself up about feeling nervous”. Self-compassion lifts some of the mental burden as you stop beat yourself up for making yourself “worse”. And then remind yourself how strong you are “I am strong resourceful, and I will come out of this .”” You continue to tell yourself this each time, it becomes ingrained in your thought pattern. Calmness becomes natural.
Finally, relive each spiral with hope-“This too shall pass and I will be ok.” Life is seasonal and troubles are seasonal. By shoving these comforting words into your mind’s mouth regularly, your brain gets used to facing everyday life with clearer head 90 percent of the time. Note that you are still able to worry, but you have the accompanying happy-tidal-storm tools to right the ship moments later. Here is the key to getting started RIGHT NOW-pronounce these shining words and note what happens to your brain.
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